Hurrah! I always like being right!

A new study has confirmed what I’ve been telling you for years: multi tasking is not good for you, no matter how skillful you think you are. While we may believe that we’re paying attention to two things at once, brain scans show the opposite.

What happens is that the brain actually has to perform a complex switching mechanism between activities. What this means is that it takes time and energy for the brain to make this switch, and then more time and energy to refocus on the first activity.

Say what you will about former President Bill Clinton, but everyone who has met him swears he has that gift of making the person he’s talking to feel as if no one else exists on the planet. Love him or hate him, he managed to use his charm and stature to rescue two American journalists convicted of illegally entering North Korea. Photos showed Kim Jong beaming as he stood beside his guest.

Allegedly, the trip–described as strictly humanitarian by the White House–had been in the works for weeks. The politically savvy families of American journalists Laura Ling and Euna Lee, had helped set up the meeting, after giving the Korean leader a choice of American dignitaries, including Clinton, Jimmy Carter, Al Gore and Bill Richardson.

The blogosphere and pundits alike have had a field day over the last month with the specter of yet another supposedly straight-laced, upright, morality preaching politician brought down by infidelity. While he hasn’t resigned as of this post, he had a tough time at Monday’s press conference dodging questions about his affair with an Argentine beauty while he was trying to talk about state business.
While I could go on about how he–like other sanctimonious, bible thumping politicians- should have just “kept it in his pants” what I want to remind you about, dear reader, is the stupidity and dangers of email.
The State, a South Carolina newspaper, printed excerpts from the florid emails between the Gov. and the woman with whom he was having an affair, “Maria.” For example:
“Two, mutual feelings…You have a particular grace and calm that I adore. You have a level of sophistication that so fitting with your beauty. I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificent gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curve of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of the night’s light- but hey, that would be going into sexual details…
Sleep soundly knowing that despite the best efforts of my head my heart cries out for you, your voice, your body, the touch of your lips, the touch of your finger tips and an even deeper connection to your soul.”
What is it about email that makes supposedly smart people abandon all sense? Almost every investigation I conduct these days has the alleged harasser or discriminator leaving an incriminating email trail. These are all people who should know better: lawyers, investment bankers, IT professionals. Yet email they must, despite the fact that an email is a just a postcard on the server floor.
As I often tell my workshop participants, and as I wrote in my book Stop Pissing Me Off! What to do When the People You Work With Drive You Crazy, the e in email stands for evidence! And in the Sanford debacle, I would say that the e in email stands for embarrassing! Some examples of the stupidity I have seen:

In the rush to beat up on Elizabeth Edwards over her book tour this week, for publicly exposing her pain over John’s infidelity, the allegedly, resulting baby (who she insists, strangely, on calling ‘it”) and her reaction to the betrayal, we seem to have forgotten an important point in this saga: The other woman, Rielle Hunter, worked for John.

Miss California

My goodness, but Miss California has had a tough couple of weeks hasn’t she? First, she brings down the wrath of a significant portion of the American public by coming out against gay marriage in response to a question by Parez Hilton in The Miss USA Pageant, which allegedly cost her the crown. Then, this week, nude pictures of her taken as a teenager show up on the Internet.

While such problems may seem far removed from your work-a-day woes, they actually both reveal relevant lessons.