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The White House Gate Crashers and Who is Crashing Your Gate?

wwwreuterscom There’s been much ado and tisk-tisking about the Salahis’ –now infamous White House gate crashers. Most people seem to assume that the Secret Service royally messed up and of course that’s perhaps true. But the reality is many of those same people who are aghast at that breach couldn’t defend their own security systems.

If you’re in corporate America, you’re probably used to key cards, sign-in sheets and the like but how safe are these systems? Do you test for leaks?

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Sarah Palin and You.

palinnewsweekWell, it’s irresistible this week: The need to write about Sarah Palin, given her book tour (Oprah! Barbara Walters! The cover of Newsweek!) and her book release today.

In the book she mostly gives John McCain a pass, but blasts his campaign, citing various slights from campaign minions.

The memoir, Going Rouge, described as “score settling” by many critics, does aim straight at the strategists, complaining about being booted offstage on election night, having to pay the bill for a $50,000 background check, as well as being muzzled when she wanted to talk about Bristol’s pregnancy in her own way. (She wanted to talk about personal responsibility and the campaign “muzzled” her).

Posted in Love your work, Professional etiquette on November 17, 2009

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Sex, Sex and More Sex: The David Letterman Saga

ap_letterman_091006_mn Did we really need one more celebrity sex scandal? Like it or not, that’s what we’re getting with the latest revelation from Letterman. Blackmailed for sleeping with staffers over the years, Letterman refused to cave and decided to go public with his announcement about the whole sordid thing. He turned the shakedown into brilliant late night theater and grabbed the last laugh.

Or did he? Some pundits have said “who cares,” arguing that he was single at the time and these women were consenting adults. But what’s been lost in the whole milieu is that these were all staffers who worked directly under Letterman’s supervision and control!

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Stars Behaving Badly: Should YOU?

kanye-west1 Ugh! We’ve endured a week of bad celebrity behavior. Serena Williams threw a profanity-laced finger pointing fit at a U.S. Open lines woman on Sunday. That same night, Kanye West leaped onto the stage to steal the thunder from Taylor Swift at the VMA’s. (MTV’s video music awards, for those of you who don’t have fifteen year old, music obsessed, twins as I do!) And don’t even get me started on the outburst by Representative Joe Wilson during President Obama’s health care speech.

Posted in Professional etiquette, Workplace stress on September 17, 2009

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Are You Listening to Me!

fotolia_6539487_lHurrah! I always like being right!

A new study has confirmed what I’ve been telling you for years: multi tasking is not good for you, no matter how skillful you think you are. While we may believe that we’re paying attention to two things at once, brain scans show the opposite.

What happens is that the brain actually has to perform a complex switching mechanism between activities. What this means is that it takes time and energy for the brain to make this switch, and then more time and energy to refocus on the first activity.

Posted in Professional etiquette, Workplace stress on September 10, 2009

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Bill Clinton, Kim Jong II and What Letter Should You be Writing?

clinton-and-kim-jongSay what you will about former President Bill Clinton, but everyone who has met him swears he has that gift of making the person he’s talking to feel as if no one else exists on the planet. Love him or hate him, he managed to use his charm and stature to rescue two American journalists convicted of illegally entering North Korea. Photos showed Kim Jong beaming as he stood beside his guest.

Allegedly, the trip–described as strictly humanitarian by the White House–had been in the works for weeks. The politically savvy families of American journalists Laura Ling and Euna Lee, had helped set up the meeting, after giving the Korean leader a choice of American dignitaries, including Clinton, Jimmy Carter, Al Gore and Bill Richardson.

Posted in Feedback, Love your work, Professional etiquette on August 13, 2009

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Governor Mark Sanford, Emails and Resigning for Stupidity

sanford The blogosphere and pundits alike have had a field day over the last month with the specter of yet another supposedly straight-laced, upright, morality preaching politician brought down by infidelity. While he hasn’t resigned as of this post, he had a tough time at Monday’s press conference dodging questions about his affair with an Argentine beauty while he was trying to talk about state business.
While I could go on about how he–like other sanctimonious, bible thumping politicians- should have just “kept it in his pants” what I want to remind you about, dear reader, is the stupidity and dangers of email.
The State, a South Carolina newspaper, printed excerpts from the florid emails between the Gov. and the woman with whom he was having an affair, “Maria.” For example:
“Two, mutual feelings…You have a particular grace and calm that I adore. You have a level of sophistication that so fitting with your beauty. I could digress and say that you have the ability to give magnificent gentle kisses, or that I love your tan lines or that I love the curve of your hips, the erotic beauty of you holding yourself (or two magnificent parts of yourself) in the faded glow of the night’s light- but hey, that would be going into sexual details…
Sleep soundly knowing that despite the best efforts of my head my heart cries out for you, your voice, your body, the touch of your lips, the touch of your finger tips and an even deeper connection to your soul.”
What is it about email that makes supposedly smart people abandon all sense? Almost every investigation I conduct these days has the alleged harasser or discriminator leaving an incriminating email trail. These are all people who should know better: lawyers, investment bankers, IT professionals. Yet email they must, despite the fact that an email is a just a postcard on the server floor.
As I often tell my workshop participants, and as I wrote in my book Stop Pissing Me Off! What to do When the People You Work With Drive You Crazy, the e in email stands for evidence! And in the Sanford debacle, I would say that the e in email stands for embarrassing! Some examples of the stupidity I have seen:

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Elizabeth Edwards’ Trail of Tears and What about John?

rielle-hunter-and-childIn the rush to beat up on Elizabeth Edwards over her book tour this week, for publicly exposing her pain over John’s infidelity, the allegedly, resulting baby (who she insists, strangely, on calling ‘it”) and her reaction to the betrayal, we seem to have forgotten an important point in this saga: The other woman, Rielle Hunter, worked for John.

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You may be no beauty queen, but you can learn from one

Miss California

Miss California

My goodness, but Miss California has had a tough couple of weeks hasn’t she? First, she brings down the wrath of a significant portion of the American public by coming out against gay marriage in response to a question by Parez Hilton in The Miss USA Pageant, which allegedly cost her the crown. Then, this week, nude pictures of her taken as a teenager show up on the Internet.

While such problems may seem far removed from your work-a-day woes, they actually both reveal relevant lessons.